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Originally Posted by cylon  I had to do this in "real life" with someone who was a close friend for many, many years. We just became different people. I can't save him from him being himself, and he can't stop me from becoming the person I am becoming. It just feels "wrong" to hang out with him, even though I still have good memories and like him as a person, but people change. I've accepted he is who he is, that we don't see the world in the same way, and now it's time to move on. And for me it's had some great benefits. And it was a very difficult decision to make, but now it feels like the natural choice. In that case, I was done "doubting" that I could be a happier person. |
That's not what I'd call ignoring, or pushing against something so that it goes away. That's filtering -- which requires acceptance.
Wouldn't that be great if you (one) could do that with people on your *ignore* list? Just accept them and move on -- even see the great benefits of having had them in your life. Then you wouldn't need a list, and you would be free.
Of course, you can't just say, "Okay, I accept that schmuck, and I'm moving on."
You have to really get yourself to a state of acceptance, or you will only be deluding yourself that you have moved on -- you'll still be stuck.