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Originally Posted by elainevdw  Openeyes, I disagree with a lot of what you wrote. One, that spreading out your affection -- making it more scarce -- increases its quality. In most things, from painting to jogging to relationships, the value increases as you invest your undivided attention and passion to it.
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An intimate relationship consists of friendship, romance, and commitment. And yes, it's perfectly natural to supplement your romantic friendship with other friendships -- if, say, your partner doesn't like dirtbiking but you do, if they don't like chick flicks but you do. However, having diverse hobbies makes you more interesting to your partner. Having a diverse sex life with each other makes you both interesting as well -- but having a diverse sex circle? That's an opening for heartbreak. I'd rather explore my sexual boundaries safely with my partner than supplement them outside our relationship.
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Yes! That's exactly what I was thinking. Thanks for putting it so well.
And thanks to everyone else for your well-thought-out posts.
~Jm4362