If my partners behaviour radically changed in ways that affected his health and self esteem I would be concerned for him and initiate conversations to find out what is causing the slump and how to get past it. I want to help him have a life that he is happy with.
If he had developed some slovenly habits just out of lazyness I would encourage with positive reinforcement a move back towards better personal grooming (eg go hose yourself down and then we can nookie!) rather than criticism or rejection of the poor habit (back off stank man, no nookie for you!)
My fiance did gain quite a bit of weight once we moved in together as a result of getting fed regular meals - I didn't say anything about it as I was extremely overweight myself - but when I went on my weight loss journey I talked a lot about my progress and what I was doing and he has picked up on that which has made a big difference - when I took up personal training I encouraged him to try it and he LOVES it - so we are now both getting slimmer and buffer and enjoying it very much. While I was always attracted to him there is no doubt that he is more sexually attractive to me now that he is getting trimmer... and he feels the same about me.
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