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Originally Posted by seeker5  When I serve in an official role, it's like I transform myself and I am very outgoing, greeting new guests, talking with them, figuring out what they want, making them feel very welcome, etc. It's like since I'm doing it for the club, I take my personal stuff out of the way. But if I fall back into just being a member as I am in my new club, I'm not at all like that, I'm back to just doing my own things and not being outgoing at all. |
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Originally Posted by Daffy Duck I've noticed similar things as well in my career. When I'm put in charge (or put myself in charge), I act like a leader and take up the leadership role. Otherwise, I just play my part in the game. I'm always happy and friendly, but it's in a different way when leading a group. |
Oh my god, yes. For me, it's like if someone questions me, I can say "I HAVE to do this. It's my JOB." But if I don't have an official role, I somehow think people will wonder why I'm doing this or that.
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Originally Posted by cacheborn One of the problems I had in the past was to make small talk. So I decided to greet new visitors in the general & introductions section with the condition that I would find at least one good thing about them to comment on. It got more and more interesting. Sometimes, I used to say, "hey, come on, give me something to go on"  . I find that I have gotten better at making small talk! |
This is cool, and a good idea to improve on small talk in a non-threatening way.
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Originally Posted by Thomas Afaik the forums allow for private subforums? I don't think that the conversation groups (via the profile) are very accessible, but I'd be all for using a opt-in private forum (however, that only solves indexing by search engines rather than being 'private'). |
I was trying to figure this out too. I saw the social groups on this site, I couldn't tell if it could be private.