Update: After going on a break, I reached the conclusion that ending the relationship is the right thing to do. It's been a rough time, but I thank you all for the advice and support.
@HOOKnLADDER: I don't mind you adding your story here but I think it's best that you start your own thread to get more answers directed to you. And really, your situation is different from mine. The thing that really tore our relationship apart (from what I can tell now) is the issue of kids/family. I wasn't ready for all of that and she was. I think that was really what prevented me from getting too close to her. I admit, I'm sure I could do better in the looks department, but it was something I could look past. And besides she's actually a pretty decent looking gal. I've even witnessed guys hitting on her amongst groups of other women (meaning they'd single her out).
My opinion about your situation: If weight is the only issue you have with her, then you should still stay with her. Looks fade away for both men and women, so it's the other things that should really matter.
But I do understand how the weight will bother you. My advice is to tactfully tell her to start living a healthy lifestyle. What worked for me in the past was to actually lead by example. I stopped eating junk food (as best as I could lol) and cooked for the both of us and it was nothing but healthy foods with lots of veggies, lean meats and unprocessed carbs. I also exercised regulary and begged her to come workout with me once in a while. I told her to come with me as more of an activity we can do together than for her to lose weight.
But to be honest, my ex at the time wasn't exactly overweight. She was really just out of shape and needed to work on toning her body. So in your case, you're going to have to be more tactful so as not to hurt her feelings and get her defensive. I would start by leading by example and if she doesn't catch on, then sit her down for chat. Remember to tell her how much you love and care for her regardless of her weight, but also let her know that looks do matter to you. Let her know how it will benefit the relationship, like how you'll do more activities together and have a better sex life. You may also would like to let her know how you'd want her in your life for a very long time so it's important that she maintain a healthy lifestyle.
It'll be hard finding a tactful way to say all of those things. I'm sure some ladies could help you out.
@funchy: Yup, that's exactly what I did and I'm sure it's the right decision. The whole issue of kids is crucial in a relationship. If both aren't on the same page then it most likely won't work out (which happened in my case).
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