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Originally Posted by kalbo  The problem I find myself in is that I see her looking at houses and babies and I can feel the subtle *sigh* she lets out. It pains me to know that I'm causing her to put a hold on her dreams just for me. And worst of all, I'm not even sure if she's the one so she could be waiting for nothing. |
The kindest thing you can do is to cut her loose. It's going to hurt. But if she wants the whole kids-family-marriage thing and you don't, one of you is going to be miserable every day.
It's nice you're considerate of her feelings and dreams. She needs to be considerate of yours. Not everyone wants to do the kids-family thing, especially at your young age. I'm a female in my 30s and I still haven't had kids, and I am very happy not to. I may some day, but once you have kids *everything* changes and your life is never yours again. You have decades of life ahead of you, and when the time is right to want a wife/kids, you'll know it. Don't shortchange yourself.