[taylor2]

yes! to the post by Liara-i think this is correct. i have a schizophrenic son who is 35.I have to help him alot.me and hubby take about 20 phone calls a day.so does his sister.he tries us nuts with the phone.well-to me it is very hard to set standards for him...as in me saying "no".but we are all entitled to our own lifes journeys.so i try to let him alone and help where i can.i think it would of been the same for my daughter and her domestic violence thing...fine! if she wants to live with it.it hurts but she is a big gal and always determined to do what she wants...but when the little babydoll grandkids come on the scene-that becomes a different story.but i sure have learned exactly what you said-everyone has a lifes journey and it is there right and i agree.that was also my point-everything i did.get her hubby out of the county for a whole yr.and then she turned around and went to mexico to be with him with the grandson 9 months old. i begged her to please not take her baby to a poor county.well-it was a week into it and he was beating her and she was calling crying.we had to get the next door neighbor to talk to the mom in law cause they would not let us talk to our daughter.we had to cough up 1000$ for her and the baby to get back as soon as she could.the pain all of this crazy stuff inflicts on others is astounding.me and hubby for yrs and yrs were in upheavel.never any peace. now he will not let any grown kid come home to live with us.this little place we have is our safe haven.that is our protection point.now we are going thru this daughter and gambeling. she spent the kids xmas money and then wanted me to babysit the grandkids everyday while she worked to make up for her gambeling.i already babysit like 50 hours a week free for her(like double shifts).so i refused.she was so angry at me. oh well-so i am not enabling her to continue in this.i have to unplug my phone sometimes...just to get the phone to stop ringing from my son.so i think u have to do things to protect yourself and i think u have to put it in gods hands and also have a "live and let live additute and this is where these stuck persons are right now".if i talked crap against my daughters hubby-she would defend him.so-agh...i just don't care anymore.i do care about my little grandkids.it is very hard to know where to help. when my daughter would talk about hubby doing this bad thing and that.my hubby was tired of it all and he would tell her"well-u must like it"...just to get it back in her court.to do soemthing about her situation.taylor2