Ah, regrets, I've looked at a few ways of dealing with them.
The way I recently like to think of it is, is that whenever I have in my mind some variation of "I wish I'd/I should've/ thought/done/said that before", it's really just trying to put demands on the past. In effect you're demanding the past to change, and then becoming upset when it doesn't. And the past you is still part of the past, that's the only place the past you can ever be. When I thought of it like this, I realized that it made no sense whatsoever to make demands on the past, it's like trying to demand an orange to be an apple, really an exercise in futility. Wanting to change the past can be tempting since that always invites thoughts of "wow it would be great if so and so happened" or "things would be so much better if I did x," but really it's a waste of energy trying to change the past since it's not going to.
Another way to look at it is you're trying to apply what you know now in the present into the past, but that's not the reality of the past event. The past event is gone and done with, it's not going to change. You can reframe it, but what actually happened is more or less set in stone.
Also, regrets do have a useful purpose that can be sustaining them. Regret surfaces when remembering an event in the past that you now want to have done better. What's the underlying usefulness there? It helps keep in memory that event with the hope that you have a better grasp of what to do better in a similar future situation. It's quite an inefficient way to make sure one learns from their experiences, but it works. To short-circuit the utility of regret, make a mental note of what you can learn from that previous situation. Think out explicitly what you'd like to consider for a future similar situation given what happened in the past event. This is sometimes enough to stop regrets from appearing if you make it a habit to mentally note what can be learnt from past experiences.
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