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Originally Posted by andrew  You've been on what, one date? It's dating, you're supposed to date numurous people. Then after a while you find you like one particular person the most, you eventually cut ties with the others and start a one on one relationship.
I can understand if it's been like a year or 2, but you just started dating, I don't see what the problem is. He really doesn't need to be justifying himself like that though, and in such lost his chances with you. If you prefer to be one on one right away, it's your choice, but it will take you a lot longer to find that *one special someone* that way than it would be to see a few people here and there and be open about it. |
I didn't mean to sound selfish about it. I just figured I'd back off since he's already been with both of these other girls for years and I don't feel like trying to compete in the "girlfriend" area, when there are other guys out there who are not in an established relationship at this time. I understand that at first people can date multiple people--but that's not what this particular situation is about.
@Michael Chui: To respond to your earlier post--I understand where you're coming from. Love is not finite. However, I'd rather give this guy my love as friendship than as romantic love now that I know about the situation. This is because I would not be comfortable with the situation. Instead of "splitting the child" as in the parable you cited, I will be like the mother who let the child go to the other woman, and give up my claim to him.
In my case, I am looking for a one-on-one romantic relationship, but new friends are always welcome.
~Jm4362