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Originally Posted by Jm4362  Also, even if he is giving 100% to his relationships, each of the girlfriends is getting only 50%, while they give 100% to him (unless they also decide to get other boyfriends, which he would find acceptable). |
I think that this is the most indicative statement out of all of them. It reminds me of the wisdom of Solomon:
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Originally Posted by 1 Kings 3:24-25 Then the king said, "Bring me a sword." So they brought a sword for the king. He then gave an order: "Cut the living child in two and give half to one and half to the other." |
Do you love your parents any less when you become married? Should you be jealous of every new child that comes into the house? Is your ability to love so limited and finite that there will never be another person in your life but the one?
Robin Dunbar states that human beings can maintain approximately 150 relationships at a reasonable level of intimacy, because of an upper limit on how much time can be spent on social grooming. I would extrapolate, from this, that the attention demanded by other interests, like one's hobbies, work, ambitions, and passions, further take up mindshare, and that higher levels of intimacy count as more than one "person".
So is there a finite amount of attention you can devote to others? Of course. But it's rarely so small as to make a difference between "one person" and "two people".