I knew two polyamorus women.
They weren't sluts. They would only sleep with people who they would become good friends with first and be friends with apart from sex. Their husbands were also free to date.
These people said it was about having so much love to give they felt unnatural limiting themselves to one person. However, it was clear to everyone that the person's main partner was their "primary"......everyone else knew they were just a good friend who they would date.
In a way it is flattering. Each partner knew his/her partner could see anyone, but chose to spend their lives with them.
I thought it was also healthy in a way far beyond how I could ever be.
Nobody in these relationships ever felt threatened. People often became good friends with their partner's lovers. One woman was even happy when her best friend and husband ended up in bed together. She saw it as two of the people whom she loved the most bonding and becoming even more part of her.
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