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Originally Posted by cylon  Sad songs... same here. All sad songs. All. Sad. Songs. I save my playlists on my iPod... a few months ago I was having a very difficult time. Lately things are better. I looked at my playlist from a few months ago. It's not much wonder I was struggling and in pain. I was reinforcing those feelings by all the sad music I was listening to. Despair, heartbreak, pain, negativity. Sometimes it's good because it helps you release, you're not alone, etc. But at other times, when you're probably feeling ok, by listening to this stuff, you are again inviting negative, sad feelings... when you weren't even feeling that bad to begin with!
My current playlists? Maybe a few of those songs. I've spent my whole life obsessed with melancholy music, it's not just going to go away, but I don't really feel the need to listen to it much anymore. I mix it up. Faster, more upbeat, inspirational music, makes me feel GOOD now. Because it's more in line with the way I'm feeling. Sad music makes you feel better, when you're feeling sad and need some validation.
I don't miss the sad music that I spent my entire life falling in love with. It's still there. I can play it whenever I want. Just like I can watch the news and screaming matches (debates) whenever I want. Option always there. It's just that now, I.... don't. Not my first impulse anymore. Things that make me feel good, I am more likely to gravitate towards. The things that are negative/sad, they are a part of me, but just not in my immediate awareness. I think it's called changing. |
This is my experience exactly. When I look at the music that I was playing over and over directly into my head through my iPod three months ago, it was all angry and angst ridden. I didn't initially intentionally stop listening to it, I just found it less attractive. I have a few old favorites on the playlist I am listening to most these days, but mostly the songs are upbeat and, well, downright perky. If anybody had told me in the middle of December that I would EVER use the word 'perky' in reference to anything to do with me, I would have gagged. Now, I kind of like being perky!