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Originally Posted by runningbird  My introversion coupled with my demanding schedule made college more like a job from hell than a rich, fulfilling opportunity. I rarely went to parties or events, dated, or otherwise had a life.
It should have been a time to explore and develop socially and culturally, but I made minuscule steps down those avenues. |
So go to parties and events, date, and otherwise have a life
now. Ditto, developing yourself socially and culturally.
College was not the one and only opportunity you had to do those things. Yeah, you failed to do them then, but there's no reason you can't explore and develop
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Now I feel like this great experience that most people go through is forever lost for me.
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We
all have experiences that are lost to us, that we wish we'd followed through on.
I did poorly throughout high school, ended up dropping out of art school, and thus deprived myself of countless career paths and other experiences. I didn't get a BA until I was 37 years old. But it doesn't matter. I did what I did, and I'm here right now, and if I don't like where I am in my life staying angry and resentful and blaming other people for my long-ago decisions isn't going to help me change that.
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I realize a lot of people never get to go at all, but I still feel angry about my experience. Can anyone relate?  |
What kind of life do you wish you were leading right now? What is it, in your present situation, that you're
really angry about? In what ways do you feel that life is passing you by?
Go look in the mirror and answer those questions for yourself. Figure out what it is you wish you were doing right now, and what kind of life you wish you were leading. And then go do whatever it takes to make that happen. Because trust me--nobody who is genuinely leading a life they love right now spends time being angry and resentful at stuff they didn't get to do in the past.
Your anger is understandable, but it's also unproductive. So is blaming your old man for the fact you chose a major you hated. You made your choices then, and you can still make choices now. So what are you going to choose?