I'm going to provide a dissenting opinion and say that the lack of sexual attraction is not the issue here, but your lack of communication. The fact that she has went and made all these plans without consulting your feelings about them is a sign that you two are not on the same wavelength. She's a hundred steps ahead of you, so naturally you feel uneasy, and this feeling permeates to every aspect of your relationship. You need to talk to her. If there's no understanding, emotional connection fades and the relationship starts to go downhill. Consequently, it starts to look hopeless and attraction fades.
Be careful not to fall into the trap of making sexual attraction all important - it can't hold a relationship together; at least, not in any meaningful way. Trust, understanding, and all those other wonderful qualities found in friendship do. Many times, attraction only grows after these are cultivated in a relationship, so perhaps you should make sure they are in place before you question the sexual component.
Whatever you decide to do, I wish you the best of luck!
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