Hi guys!
I was wondering what people's feelings about family are on this board. Does the fact that a person is my mother, or brother, or uncle, make them more deserving of my respect or love?
It seems like most people would say yes, but i tend to disagree. For example, my mother was abusive and distant my whole life... I can't remember ever feeling any kind of attachment for her. When I recently tried to start saying "I love you" to her and hugging her, it just felt like a lie. Is this wrong of me? Why bother keeping a person I have no positive feelings for in my life?
It seems to me that a family member should be evaluated in just the same way as anybody else when I am deciding if they should be in my life. My Grandfather is a violent racist, who shoots down my dreams and goals for the future. Should the fact that he is my Grandfather overshadow this?
On the other hand, my brother and sister are great people, and I enjoy their company. it seems like honoring the negative relationships with other family members simply because they were "family" would dilute the meaning of the love I feel for my siblings.
Thank you far reading. And I'm really curious what you think about this subject.
