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Originally Posted by saintssupporter  but if you want a relationship hold out on the guy and build up a mutual understanding. |
So, essentially what you're advising, is to reward the guys who don't give a crap about you by giving them sex, and to punish the guys who'll give you a relationship by holding out on them. Nothing like starting a relationship by playing a game. Right?
Here's my advice: set a standard for sex and stick with it, no matter who you are with. The guys who want to be with you will still be with you if you have sex with them. Not having sex with someone does NOT translate to them sticking around. It only translates to baiting them along long enough to get them invested in you to make it harder for them to walk away. I guess if you want to manipulate someone into being with you, this would work. Assuming you want a relationship based on manipulation.
Otherwise, this is bad advice.
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Originally Posted by saintssupporter If any of you were told by your partners to lose a few lbs I can guarantee you would be quick enough to kick them to the kerb. |
Losing weight isn't about "looks." Losing weight is about health and vitality. It's only an added bonus that you also get to "look good" when you lose weight.
So, having someone ask you to lose weight is having someone say "hey, I want you to be healthy."
Assuming you have your beliefs about weight and health straight, that is. You can choose to get offended if you want, but that wouldn't serve you. Burying your head in the sand about it doesn't serve you either.