The grass is always greener on the other side. Doesn't necessarily mean that it's better, but it's definitely greener from this side, huh?
By the way, when you say "up until now" do you mean that she still tells you that you are the one, or has she seemed to stop? Why does she feel that you are the one? It sounds like the real issue is, do you stay in for her or do you get out for yourself? And not just that, but if you do decide to stay, can you give her what she needs? Are you getting what you need? Those are the questions I would be asking if I were you.
I feel that if I get along great with someone and can be honest and open about everything with that person, there's no need to "be crazy" about her. Is sex an important part of the relationship for you? If so, you'd better get out of there. Is it just the kids that are the issue? If so, you'd better make clear your concerns about the kids, see if she feels that you two can make it work now, and go from there. Do you feel that you are only staying in the relationship for her? If so, you'd better get out of there, because you can't really fake love for long. (Unless her definition of love is synonymous with caring, responsibility, and loyalty which is actually true for some people).
Perhaps you are only telling one side of the story here, but if what you've told us is the whole truth of how you feel about her, she isn't "the one". That doesn't mean you will find the one if you leave her though. And while ideally everyone should find "the one" maybe this girl has a deep belief that "this is as good as it's gonna get" and with that belief she won't find another "the one" either.
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