Truly appreciate all the replies... wonderful advice I'm reading here.
@Alexjstrandberg: That last sentence really struck a cord, "It seems like you both have a great friendship but not much of a sexual relationship."... bang... on....
Sexually, she does want me, but I can't really say the same for her and it feels weird since I'm the guy. I'm used to the other way around. We do have sex once in a while, but I find that I have to force myself to get in the mood at times. I figured that it might be because I'm getting a bit older and my libido isn't what it used to, but I think it's too much of a drop off to be normal. And really, I'm only 28.
I guess I'm really afraid to admit that this is just a friendship (if that may be the case) seeing how long it lasted. In past relationships, the attraction was there but the communication was lacking. Then I finally found someone who I clicked with on another level, so I figured that she must be someone special. The attraction wasn't as strong but I thought it wouldn't be a big deal.
@rawxstasy: As I mentioned above, there is (was?) an attraction, but not to the point where I would go crazy over her. But does someone really need to "go crazy" over someone to know if they're the one? That's an honest question btw.
That situation with the guy you married could very well be like mine (minus the marriage part). I love my gf, but it doesn't seem like I'm "in love" with her. It does seem like we're more like great companions than lovers.
Going on a break is something we discussed and I'm sure it's the only option at this point.
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