I am going to write about something that some of you might say, "oh, thats nice, no big deal." It is a big deal too me.
Here goes, don't laugh. Monday is garbage day. They come between 10 and 11 am. I usually put my can out the night before, but didn't as I got busy and knew I had time in the morning.
I haven't been sleeping well. I told this to my neighbor yesterday. My phone rang and woke me this morning with her saying I needed to put my garbage out!! I went back to sleep and when I went out at 9:00 to move my can it was already out there! she had done it for me!
This really made me mad. Why? She has the worst memory in the world and we recently talked about how that had a negative effect on people around her.
She knows damn well I'm not going to "forget" to take my can out! She knows I have a good memory! I think she is saying, "see, you forgot." It's not an act of kindness, it's a slam. This is a pattern of control with her. Clearly I'm not reacting well to another piece of her bs. What to do? I think she woke me on purpose too. I don't want to alienate her. She'll be taking care of my animals soon. There are things we do for eachother as we both live alone. I consider her an aquaintance not a friend as our differences are too great to bother to overcome.
There is passive aggressive manipulation going on. It's a lot bigger that garbage cans. It really got to me. I'd like some advice. thanks.