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kalbo · 08-17-2009, 07:49 AM

First time poster here. Stumbled on this forum and I was very impressed with the mature, intelligent and experienced posters so I figure this is the perfect place to get advice... So here's my story:

Been with my girlfriend for almost two years now. She let me know early on that I was "the one" and up until now she still tells me that. Unfortunately I, on the other hand, am not quite sure if she is the one. I mean, we get along great, I enjoy her company and I like spending time with her. However, for some reason, I'm just not that crazy over her and I never really was. I always assumed that "the one" would be someone who you'd spend lots of time with and have excellent communication with, but never get tired of them. So I find myself a bit confused as to why I'm not crazy over her and why I have to question whether she is the one.

And here's the situation we find ourselves in now: We're both in our late 20's. She's making decent money and is ready to get married, move into a house and have kids. I, on the other hand, recently lost my job, don't have much money in the bank, and I plan on going back to school in a few months. Although she wants to move on in her life, she tells me she will wait for me to get financially stable (which would take years) so we can afford a house and kids.

The problem I find myself in is that I see her looking at houses and babies and I can feel the subtle *sigh* she lets out. It pains me to know that I'm causing her to put a hold on her dreams just for me. And worst of all, I'm not even sure if she's the one so she could be waiting for nothing.

Anyways, I need to know if she's the one so I don't keep her waiting for nothing. Feel free to ask me questions about my relationship since I know it's hard to determine it from the limited information I presented. And even if she is the one, is it a good idea for me to keep her waiting still?

Please, please, please help!

08-17-2009, 07:49 AM	#1 (permalink)
kalbo Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 7	Need to know if she's the one... HELP! First time poster here. Stumbled on this forum and I was very impressed with the mature, intelligent and experienced posters so I figure this is the perfect place to get advice... So here's my story: Been with my girlfriend for almost two years now. She let me know early on that I was "the one" and up until now she still tells me that. Unfortunately I, on the other hand, am not quite sure if she is the one. I mean, we get along great, I enjoy her company and I like spending time with her. However, for some reason, I'm just not that crazy over her and I never really was. I always assumed that "the one" would be someone who you'd spend lots of time with and have excellent communication with, but never get tired of them. So I find myself a bit confused as to why I'm not crazy over her and why I have to question whether she is the one. And here's the situation we find ourselves in now: We're both in our late 20's. She's making decent money and is ready to get married, move into a house and have kids. I, on the other hand, recently lost my job, don't have much money in the bank, and I plan on going back to school in a few months. Although she wants to move on in her life, she tells me she will wait for me to get financially stable (which would take years) so we can afford a house and kids. The problem I find myself in is that I see her looking at houses and babies and I can feel the subtle sigh she lets out. It pains me to know that I'm causing her to put a hold on her dreams just for me. And worst of all, I'm not even sure if she's the one so she could be waiting for nothing. Anyways, I need to know if she's the one so I don't keep her waiting for nothing. Feel free to ask me questions about my relationship since I know it's hard to determine it from the limited information I presented. And even if she is the one, is it a good idea for me to keep her waiting still? Please, please, please help!