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Dreamline · 08-16-2009, 03:59 PM

My situation was this: I was living with my boyfriend of three years and we were supposed to get married in a month. For whatever reason--he's terribly un-intuitive and can never figure out what motivates himself to do things--he broke up with me and I moved out.

So, as your friend should do, I moved on, got a place, reconnected with friends I had been neglecting due to the distance ex-bf lived, dated some new people. Yeah, it hurt like hell for awhile. But you can hurt and have fun at the same time. If I can do it, your friend can do it. You can hurt and still look toward other futures in a positive way.

Anyway, he started asking for me back about six months later. By then I was having so much fun I wasn't sure I wanted him back, so I made him court me for another year. Now we are married for going on ten years.

His breaking up with me changed him as a person and changed me as a person and both those things made us perfect for each other, when all was said and done.

Look forward. Not back. Your friend will never know if it's in the stars for he and ex-gf to be together but he cannot plan his life as if it is. By doing so, he negates her right to choose her own path.

It's not all about him. Unless that's the reason she broke up with him in the first place...

Jennifer

08-16-2009, 03:59 PM	#6 (permalink)
Dreamline Banned Join Date: May 2009 Location: Raleigh, NC Posts: 989	My situation was this: I was living with my boyfriend of three years and we were supposed to get married in a month. For whatever reason--he's terribly un-intuitive and can never figure out what motivates himself to do things--he broke up with me and I moved out. So, as your friend should do, I moved on, got a place, reconnected with friends I had been neglecting due to the distance ex-bf lived, dated some new people. Yeah, it hurt like hell for awhile. But you can hurt and have fun at the same time. If I can do it, your friend can do it. You can hurt and still look toward other futures in a positive way. Anyway, he started asking for me back about six months later. By then I was having so much fun I wasn't sure I wanted him back, so I made him court me for another year. Now we are married for going on ten years. His breaking up with me changed him as a person and changed me as a person and both those things made us perfect for each other, when all was said and done. Look forward. Not back. Your friend will never know if it's in the stars for he and ex-gf to be together but he cannot plan his life as if it is. By doing so, he negates her right to choose her own path. It's not all about him. Unless that's the reason she broke up with him in the first place... Jennifer Last edited by Dreamline; 08-16-2009 at 04:02 PM.