I always see it as a scale..
When the work is worth what I get in return (the relationship), it doesn´t matter how hard the work is.
When I feel that the work is more than I get back, it is time to move on.
What I get back in this case is not from the other person, but the joy and fulfilment I get from being in this relationship.
Another way of looking at it is "would it feel / be worse when I wasn´t with her?" When the answer is YES you can still work on your relationship.
No relationship is without its issues, and all relationships go through fases of troubles.
You have the famous 3 month bumb, the 2 year bumb.... when you first move in together, when you first have a child together.. all these things cause stress in a relationship something to work on together.
But it gets balanced by the good times, before and after.
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