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ssandra · 08-14-2009, 08:45 PM

Well, first of all I would work on starting to be ok with yourself... You are the person you spend the most time with, so why not spend it with somebody you actually like?

Secondly... just because you don´t drink alcohol, doesn´t mean that others cannot either.

Thirdly... if you don´t take a chance and reach out, ask somebody out, nothing will ever happen. Just try... the worst thing that can happen is that they say no, and than you are at home doing nothing... exactly what you are doing now..

I once almost lost a friend like that. I never dared to reach out and ask them, I always waited. At one point they told me that they were getting tired of it. It always felt as if it came only from one side. I changed my behaviour to them and now we are still good friends...

So my being afraid to reach out almost lost me a friend. Don´t let that happen to you!

08-14-2009, 08:45 PM	#3 (permalink)
ssandra Banned Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Mexico City Posts: 11,168	3 pieces of advice Well, first of all I would work on starting to be ok with yourself... You are the person you spend the most time with, so why not spend it with somebody you actually like? Secondly... just because you don´t drink alcohol, doesn´t mean that others cannot either. Thirdly... if you don´t take a chance and reach out, ask somebody out, nothing will ever happen. Just try... the worst thing that can happen is that they say no, and than you are at home doing nothing... exactly what you are doing now.. I once almost lost a friend like that. I never dared to reach out and ask them, I always waited. At one point they told me that they were getting tired of it. It always felt as if it came only from one side. I changed my behaviour to them and now we are still good friends... So my being afraid to reach out almost lost me a friend. Don´t let that happen to you!