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Originally Posted by saintssupporter  Im sorry but this is complete bollocks in my opinion.
1. If she has a boyfriend already think twice, either finish the relationship or leave it be.
2. Agree with that
3. Why should she lose weight unless she wants to? I have a good few lbs over weight, he would like her for who she is not what she is.
4. Be yourself, dont exaggerate parts of your personality, just be you
5. Pretty much same as point number two.
Dont ever write dating books you lot  |
First off, are you a guy or girl?
1. What did this have to do with what I said? If she's wanting a guy's attention and is already in a relationship, then perhaps she should evaluate the relationship?
2. Good.
3. Weight loss should be for her health first and foremost. Plus, your weight says something about your attitudes and beliefs. So, losing weight is more about her fixing some beliefs (because I don't believe you can truly lose weight and maintain weight loss without a shift in beliefs) than it is about objectification. And, let's get real here...attraction is based on two things: the way you look and your personality. If either one of those is lacking, attraction is hindered. So if she's wanting to get a guy's attention, getting into shape will increase her chances of that. BTW, this isn't a stand alone point. It was grouped with 4 other things.
4. And by being yourself, you will show him what a great personality you have.
See what I'm saying? I didn't say to exaggerate her personality. I said to show him what a great personality she already has. That's assuming she already has a great personality. If she doesn't, then, well, she shouldn't just "be herself." She should improve her personality.
5. I shoulda brought "flirt" down under this point. The rest of point number 2, however, is different from this.