Personal Development for Smart People Forums - View Single Post

JSB · 08-14-2009, 05:37 PM

Hi David21,

It sounds like this has been a tough situation for you.

I'm not going to give you "tactics" advice on relationships, etc., but I did want to comment on your issue.

I'm sure it must be difficult feeling "behind" your friends and not having the same experience they do. Don't worry about this; I don't mean: "ignore the issue and pretend is doesn't bother you". I mean that you should recognize this is your life and your journey, and other people's timetables don't mean a damn thing.

You don't have the experience others have, but you have the means to gain experience and learn how to have fullfilling relationships in your life. You may be starting "behind", but that doesn't matter anywhere near as much as it may feel to you now -- if you can learn to approach love and relationships consciously, with an open heart (while still looking after your own well-being), cultivate respect for yourself and others, and be receptive to learning and growing from every new experience, you will soon be far ahead of most others in your depth of knowledge and understanding.

You certainly have some issues to address and some things to learn, but don't get down on yourself about it. You absolutely can improve your life and develop the types of relationships you want; just recognize that everyone has to start somewhere.

08-14-2009, 05:37 PM	#5 (permalink)
JSB Family Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 1,133	Hi David21, It sounds like this has been a tough situation for you. I'm not going to give you "tactics" advice on relationships, etc., but I did want to comment on your issue. I'm sure it must be difficult feeling "behind" your friends and not having the same experience they do. Don't worry about this; I don't mean: "ignore the issue and pretend is doesn't bother you". I mean that you should recognize this is your life and your journey, and other people's timetables don't mean a damn thing. You don't have the experience others have, but you have the means to gain experience and learn how to have fullfilling relationships in your life. You may be starting "behind", but that doesn't matter anywhere near as much as it may feel to you now -- if you can learn to approach love and relationships consciously, with an open heart (while still looking after your own well-being), cultivate respect for yourself and others, and be receptive to learning and growing from every new experience, you will soon be far ahead of most others in your depth of knowledge and understanding. You certainly have some issues to address and some things to learn, but don't get down on yourself about it. You absolutely can improve your life and develop the types of relationships you want; just recognize that everyone has to start somewhere.