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Originally Posted by Scott H Young  First off, let me say that I'm a young guy (18) and I've never been in a serious relationship. This means I'm certainly not a relationship expert. But I do have experience in knowing what it is like to not have the kind of relationship you want. The thoughts I offer past this point are those that came to me out of my own internal discussion that helped me deal with this problem. I figured if it helped me it might help some of you, so I'm sharing.
From everything I've noticed from people who are in relationships to those that have had lots and are dissatisfied, and even to those who are in ones they think are great here is a couple points I've noticed: - Being in a relationship doesn't fix your problem. People who are in poor relationships want better ones. People who are in great relationships have completely different problems.
- The intense feelings of romance and attraction are temporary. Sure they are great, but they are insubstantial and too impermanent to chase forever.
- The people who want relationships most are the least likely to get them.
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I applaud you for being so young and for being so articulate about this idea. When I was in middle school/high school, I understood the basic idea well enough. I just couldn't explain it to friends who insisted on "getting a girlfriend" or would attack people with "Well, at least I have a girlfriend". So many people think that being in a relationship is a goal, and self-worth is defined by the ability to be in a relationship.