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Originally Posted by Yellow  My bf recently suggested we go open. I have always thought of relationships as monogamous, at least thought mine would be. I like the idea of it but my fear and possessiveness (that I didn't know I had) make it VERY difficult. How did you guys make the emotional transition to an open relationship?
When I think about us far out in the future, or any long term relationship, it sounds like a stupid idea to assume that neither one of us would get physically attracted to any one at all. And I like the idea of being able to have my (sexual) fun outside of the relationship, as well. I also will be very proud of myself if I could bring myself to open up enough to provide us with something very few relationships allow. However, the transition is very difficult, emotionally.
We have a great relationship and I guess it feels like it deserves to break the norms just because of how great we are together. I feel that we CAN handle it and we should give it a try because we DO have the ability. But I am not emotionally there yet and don't see myself getting there for years. So, I am wondering how you guys made the emotional transition, especially if it was your SO's idea.. |
I have never been in an open relationship, although I have dated more than one guy at a time (not sure if that counts). While it was fun and I indulged my youth, there was still this part of me that wanted to feel special and I didn't feel that in an open relationship. While that wasn't the whole reason for my insight, I enjoy committing myself to one person. It's easy to date many people but its tough work to remain loyal. Perhaps that is where the ultimate fulfillment lies.