I agree on "having someone won't fix you" and definitely agree on "relationships are less about having and more about doing". I used to say if you want a friend, first you be a friend. It starts with being interested in the other instead of dumping all your problems on him/her (notice the Covey-principle here: seek first to understand, then to be understood).
Having been in a serious bestfriend-relationship for 8 years, I think having a close companion profoundly affects your life. Quoting Steve, goals give a certain quality for the present moment. If you have somebody to set common goals and spend your life with, that can motivate the heck out of you, which in turn contributes so much to your day-to-day happiness as nothing else I've experienced in my 23 years.
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