I wouldn't say I haven't tried to open it. A more correct description is that the openness ended at a certain place. Yes, it has kept us from connecting as much as we could have but what was running it was fear of losing her if I were to share that side of me.
Since then I have learned that if she doesn't like ever side of me we shouldn't be together of course and I am gradually working on exposing her to different aspects of me that I had hidden before. Some things are more painful than other though and I don't think I can dump everything on her at a time. (she doesn't know about Anne for instance)
We have begun some work, as in me sharing more of myself and her making an effort to understand and participate in things she didn't before but even if I managed to open up completely it wouldn't fix the relationship, merely expose its flaws better.
Yes, if I don't learn to do this I am very likely to carry it over to future relationships but IMO it is harder to share something like this with someone you have been hiding it from for 6 years than someone you are trying to get to know.
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