1.ssandra has a good point. do not underestimate the influence that your parents have on you (even so when you happen to be close to them, or in your case, were as you mentioned). since you mentioned college, I take that you are not very old:P no hard feelings, i myself am just 22 and im battling dayly with the grip that my mom and family has over me. it`s not a bad thing, in its essence. it`s just the way things are when you have grown up in a close intimate family enviornment. but be aware and try to notice it. ask yourself if its something your mom thinks or is it what you really think. the values and opinions your parents/family hold, can influence you to a extent you don`t understand yet. plus, your relationship had a difficult background, a lot of people were critical so this might have left a scar and thanks to this you are maybe more prone to outside influence... more open to adapting other people`s opinions (subconsciously).
2. ssandra has another good point. butterflies do go away, and then come back again only to leave for a few weeks, and then return etc.
3. relax. go with the flow. you don`t have to decide anything right now. see where this thing will take you. just go out with her and try to enjoy whatever it is that you are doing... i think that if you forget all this worrying and anaylizing over your relationshiop, then the chemistry will return. you cant be playful and have good sex when you are worrying so much....
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