Thanks Drakecatz, Marinik and ang569 you've each given me a helpful perspective i could'nt see before.
Wow Marinik, inspiring to hear that you beat cancer
Im out of my depth in this situation, i can see all the lessons in it for me but this is the 2nd of 3 friends lately that needs my support as they exit, its unnerving and im struggling with finding the clarity and balance to be able to be the best a friend can be.
BUT im gona try listen for my intuition and give the best support that i can.