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Viceguy · 08-12-2009, 04:30 PM

I didn't break it off, I just couldn't do it this suddenly.

However, I did talk to her and I told her how I feel about us and the relationship. I made it clear that it was a very real possibility of not being able to repair things.

We are starting counselling tomorrow as a last-ditch effort to save the relationship and if there is a way for me to be happy in it then of course that is the best case scenario here. I'm not sure there is though and at least now if I do end up terminating our relationship it won't be a surprise to her and she will have had time to understand my reasoning.

Yes, I am afraid that we might slide back to the way we used to be only to have this surface again later but I think with counselling and a determined effort to do what's best for both of us (and the fear of sliding back kicking me in the butt) that won't happen this time.

Thanks for the advice guys. When reading back through what I wrote here I see that it was good for the situation as I painted it. When I cut Anne out of the equation though (as it was right that my dissatisfaction with my current relationship has nothing to do with her) I realized that if I can fix my relationship with Beta I would really like to do that. After a 6 year relationship I think I can afford to spend a few weeks on trying, whatever happens in the end.

08-12-2009, 04:30 PM	#17 (permalink)
Viceguy Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 12	I didn't break it off, I just couldn't do it this suddenly. However, I did talk to her and I told her how I feel about us and the relationship. I made it clear that it was a very real possibility of not being able to repair things. We are starting counselling tomorrow as a last-ditch effort to save the relationship and if there is a way for me to be happy in it then of course that is the best case scenario here. I'm not sure there is though and at least now if I do end up terminating our relationship it won't be a surprise to her and she will have had time to understand my reasoning. Yes, I am afraid that we might slide back to the way we used to be only to have this surface again later but I think with counselling and a determined effort to do what's best for both of us (and the fear of sliding back kicking me in the butt) that won't happen this time. Thanks for the advice guys. When reading back through what I wrote here I see that it was good for the situation as I painted it. When I cut Anne out of the equation though (as it was right that my dissatisfaction with my current relationship has nothing to do with her) I realized that if I can fix my relationship with Beta I would really like to do that. After a 6 year relationship I think I can afford to spend a few weeks on trying, whatever happens in the end.