Good relationships usually involve a measure of trust, given and taken, from both sides. Since we can't control what the other party is willing to do or not do, we have to decide for ourselves what and how much we're willing to put up with and whether an uncooperative partner is worth the persistence. Different people may require different methods of gaining trust and openness, and some may need a lot longer time and patience than others, especially those who aren't natural communicators. If you love and care strongly enough for someone, I think trust can grow (or be healed) simply by continuing to 'show up' or being there for them, assuming of course that they still hold the same feelings for you as well. We can only do so much on our own, and I'd feel discouraged too if after awhile I didn't sense any of the same giving of trust and honesty in return. |