It's natural to feel this way. I don't like crying or moaning and people becoming victimized by the situation. I understand why they do it BUT I don't wish to be around it and that's perfectly fine. I don't enjoy babies crying, loud construction work or loud music but it doesn't mean that I'm intolerant. I lump belly aching into the same category.
When I was a victim, I hated listening to success and people solving their problems. Their attitudes and actions was completely opposite to the views I held and it drove me insane (as it did others). But now that I'm on the other side of the fence I enjoy listening to people taking response-ability for their lives-it's inspiring but can't stand listening to blaming others. I love those people but I love them from afar.
With that being said, there could also be a apart of you that feels guilty, maybe even shameful for playing the victim role in the past. A lot of the times people disconnect from their past without ever really letting go of it when they improve and develop. Whenever they see someone that reminds them of who they used to be they repress the emotions or go into attack. Pointing a finger helps cover up ones issues because perception is often projection.
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