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Thanks JW. Most of her friends have been warning her about his attiude toward her for some time. She always would stand up for him. They were close as kids and as I said her only "blood" family left.
Now she is saying what you said above. She kept saying,"I think he's enjoying this." So this whole bad experience has been a eye opener to the truth and as much as it hurts, it's best to know.
He is instigating loose ends! You little psychic. |
I would say that if he's enjoying this power game, then it's time to stop rewarding him. Disengage from the interaction and either: 1. cut off contact permanently, or 2. reengage in a different manner or at a different time --- precisely how and when depends on the situation and the people involved; the goal is to disrupt the current dynamic and come at things from a new angle (even if that angle turns out to be "no interaction").
The current dynamic sounds like it's harmful to everyone. (He may be enjoying it, but getting off on controlling/depriving one's own sister qualifies as (self) harmful in my book.)