My condolences also to your friend...
...a lot of nice people unfortunately need to learn the hard way who & how to trust (and who/how to not trust).
She cannot control him. She can only choose for herself starting now.
Any attempt she makes, to beg or plead or trick or blackmail or inspire him to change his mind...well it sounds like she has no leverage in this situation. From a negotiating standpoint, she has a very weak hand.
She can ask. And she can honor his choice. Then she can make her own choice.
Also...if he calls her names, instigates all sorts of loose ends, and then says "do not respond", what he's really saying is, "I'm going to take a ♥♥♥♥♥ on you and you're going to let me do it because I have something you want and I have no intention of giving it to you I just want to watch & imagine you squirm & feel pain cause that will give me pleasure". It's cruel on his part.
She doesn't have to take that from him or anybody. That is perhaps a beginning step to her owning her power.
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