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drakecatz · 08-10-2009, 05:39 PM

A friend of mine received an e-mail from here brother, and after reading it, I was so stunned I am wondering how to help her respond.

They have not seen eachother in 8 years. When their mother passed, my friend did a quit claim on the will and gave her brother total control.

Now that she needs some money from her part of the trust, he is not being helpful. They have been talking and e-mailing a lot about this. This guy is awful, and as things stand now, it benefits his family not to help her. According to the will he doesn't have to help her, but if he cared about her at all it's a simple request. It wouldn't hurt the trust to help her out.

In his last e-mail to her he called her names and ranted on about their issue. He ended it by saying..."Do not respond to this e-mail!"

How do you respond to someone who says, "do not respond?" Should she respond to this? Should she just accept that her brother doesn't care about her and write him off? She was very close to her mother and she knows her mother wouldn't want him doing this. This is a life changing issue for her.

Any thoughts would be appreciated. It is so mean and controlling. She says he is like Rush Limbaugh, Orange County Republician. Should she respond?

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drakecatz Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Southwest desert Posts: 469	Being told not to respond! A friend of mine received an e-mail from here brother, and after reading it, I was so stunned I am wondering how to help her respond. They have not seen eachother in 8 years. When their mother passed, my friend did a quit claim on the will and gave her brother total control. Now that she needs some money from her part of the trust, he is not being helpful. They have been talking and e-mailing a lot about this. This guy is awful, and as things stand now, it benefits his family not to help her. According to the will he doesn't have to help her, but if he cared about her at all it's a simple request. It wouldn't hurt the trust to help her out. In his last e-mail to her he called her names and ranted on about their issue. He ended it by saying..."Do not respond to this e-mail!" How do you respond to someone who says, "do not respond?" Should she respond to this? Should she just accept that her brother doesn't care about her and write him off? She was very close to her mother and she knows her mother wouldn't want him doing this. This is a life changing issue for her. Any thoughts would be appreciated. It is so mean and controlling. She says he is like Rush Limbaugh, Orange County Republician. Should she respond?