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Originally Posted by Kean  Do you think it men can be perceived as needy when they try to listen to a woman or even act with curiosity about a womans' tastes, values and lifestyle? |
Depends on how you listen/act with curiosity. If you go too deep in an area, while in general the relationship hasn't developed very far, it'll be weird. Constructing a detailed dossier (and showing off with it) is probably not a good idea, either. Getting to know each other, rather than showing curiosity on your behalf alone, is something both people involved should be interested in.
I suppose the important bit is for what kind of purpose you are interested in someone. If it's just to find someone to patch holes in yourself, or in other words to fill a need (i. e. being needy), it'll be rather one-sided. Have something to give as well (and that could be matching interests, tastes, values etc.), to share. So, if your purpose is to find out what her tastes,.. are to find out where you match up or share something, that'll be far better than creating artificial interest in yourself which in turn you might not able to sustain for a long time.