If your so called `friends` are not really hanging out with you as much as they should or not inviting you, then they are not real friends. I had the same problem and I had to be absolutely ruthless about it. I told them I didn`t want them to be my frinds and decided to make new friends instead and now I am happier.
Let them know that if they are really friends then they should hold themsevles accountable. Ofcourse it works both ways they will hold you to high standard probably.
To me a friend meets on a regular basis or at least contacts on a regular basis. Someone to share your time with, laugh and have interesting experiences as well as share intimate things that help you to become more honest. A friend is fair and willing to help and takes his/her friendship seriously and is consistant in his/her friendship. That`s just my defintion but, Im sure most people think of friends in that way.
Explain exactly how you feel and then let them explain how they feel. Then let them know what you will and wont accept. That way when they dont keep high standards， you can say goodbye and connect with others who are much better fit for you.
In doing this you may fluctuate through periods of lonleyness but it is better to be alone and find true connections thatn be connected but on a very superficial level.
The world is plentiful with people who would love to connect with you. Don`t think that you have only a few friends.
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