Hi,
I have been completely stressed over this for a while now. Last fall, I for the most part lost all of my friends because they abandoned me (which is a story for another day). Soon after that, I began making friends with a guy I had known for a short while but had never really gotten to know. Since then, we've been hanging out every once and a while, and I've really appreciated his friendship.
Here is the problem though: as he has friends that he has been friends with all through high school and still into college, it's been hard for me to feel welcome since I'm kind of "breaking into" this group of tight-knit friends.
The part that really has been worrying me is that I seem to be completely obsessing over this. I constantly wish I were spending time with them, and I feel dejected when I hear that they did something I was not invited to. I know I'm being irrational and that I need to accept that they are good friends with different interests and at different places in life. For some reason though, I just feel like I'm being dejected.
In about 3 weeks, I am moving to school about 4 hours away, and now I keep dwelling on that I won't have any friends when I come home for breaks and such, because they will no longer think of me when I'm not around. I seem to just get in these obsessive moods where I get all worked up over this, and I probably will be fine by tomorrow
but I can't keep doing this to myself, I feel like I'm going crazy.
Mainly I'm just hoping for someone who has experienced this before to maybe provide some advice. Am I crazy (I won't be offended if you say yes) or are my fears well-founded? I don't know, I feel like I'm causing myself a lot of angst just because I'm not with these people 24/7, but then I finally convince myself that that is irrational, and I go in a loop until I wear myself out.
Thanks.
ERW