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Originally Posted by candis  I too see myself attracting challenging work situations and relationships that I have no interests in. I recognize this pattern and as soon as I meet some with a negative vibe I quickly end our interactions. Before, I would tolerate it and be miserable. At least I am heading in the right direction by not associating with these people. Now I need to work on attracting more positive work environment.
"If you want to catch fish, you need to go where the fish are."
Do you have any suggestions where to meet more positive people. I've also outgrown the people that I am used to attracting. |
Yes you are definelty heading in the right direction.
For me I had a really horrible work situation that was the instigator for me to take action. I did notice a strong pattern emerging and could see clearly it was because I was not strong in my convictions. I could clearly see I had to break the pattern. So on almost having a breakdown, I said these words "right I will never ever let these people come into my life again, from now on I will only attract these type of people, and if I ever get these horrible type of people enter my life again, I will never ever let them stand over me". Well that was a defining moment for me.
After that, I knew the type of people I wanted to work with, they had pretty much same values as me, so it really wasn't hard to know exactly what I wanted. So I said something like" the people I surround myself with will be genuine, open hearted, sincere, helpful, kind, fair and flexible". And that's who I work with pretty much with.
I don't say it once though, when I feel a situation will arise that might bring new people into my lives, I still reiterate in my mind what I want.
For example I went for a job interview today, the week before I said the people will be as above and they will allow me to be open and ask lots of questions and they will have a similar mindset as me and if they don't I will not even think about working with them (because before hand I would of thought about it). And well they did have the exact approach I was hoping for
