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All i Know · 08-08-2009, 07:27 PM

So long story short
my gf and I are on a "break". she was the one who wanted it. at first i tried to get her to reconsider, but then i decided to give her time. the reason we ended up getting in this fix is because i felt like she was talking to her ex too much, this was the start of it, and i caught her talking to him a couple of times after i asked her not too. she did stop. but then near the end of our relationship she became a little distant, and her reasons for taking the break was that I was too possessive and needed to know where she was at all time ( i think the reason i started to feel that i needed to was because i was a bit scared she might like her ex again....).

So anyways weve been on a break. she went to visit her relative for the past week. we didnt really talk on the phone for the past month, only a text here or there. but today after i received her missed call yesterday i called her and we talked for a hour and a half. i knew she was coming back so i asked her if she wanted to goto a festival nearby, and id pick her up from the airport. she would otherwise take the metro back home.

she refused and said she didnt wanna hang out just yet. i was hoping she would say yes. especailly cause she called me first... and maybe wanted to hang out or talk more.

so here is the dilemma. ive been known to do some outlandish stuff. and since she is going to take the metro back tomorrow- i thought id surprize her at the airport and give her a ride home. maybe she might wanna hang out with me after?

when i told her about the plan she was giggling and said she didnt wanna hang out just yet - i asked her if it was because of our "situation" or because she had plans. and she said a little bit of both.

if i get her right before she gets on the metro ill have some time with her untill i drop her back. and her flight is just 1 hr so she wont probably be too tired.

SHOULD I SURPRIZE HER? the airport is 1 hr from me and out of my way. i wanna do this for her because i still have feelings for her. my plan is too be laid back and just chill and not bring up any mushy stuff or w/e.
but i fear that she might think i am coming off too strong, am still possessive, and w/e else she thought about me which made her take a break....

help. thanks

08-08-2009, 07:27 PM	#1 (permalink)
All i Know Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 1	Should I do it or Not? Decision with my on a "break" GF So long story short my gf and I are on a "break". she was the one who wanted it. at first i tried to get her to reconsider, but then i decided to give her time. the reason we ended up getting in this fix is because i felt like she was talking to her ex too much, this was the start of it, and i caught her talking to him a couple of times after i asked her not too. she did stop. but then near the end of our relationship she became a little distant, and her reasons for taking the break was that I was too possessive and needed to know where she was at all time ( i think the reason i started to feel that i needed to was because i was a bit scared she might like her ex again....). So anyways weve been on a break. she went to visit her relative for the past week. we didnt really talk on the phone for the past month, only a text here or there. but today after i received her missed call yesterday i called her and we talked for a hour and a half. i knew she was coming back so i asked her if she wanted to goto a festival nearby, and id pick her up from the airport. she would otherwise take the metro back home. she refused and said she didnt wanna hang out just yet. i was hoping she would say yes. especailly cause she called me first... and maybe wanted to hang out or talk more. so here is the dilemma. ive been known to do some outlandish stuff. and since she is going to take the metro back tomorrow- i thought id surprize her at the airport and give her a ride home. maybe she might wanna hang out with me after? when i told her about the plan she was giggling and said she didnt wanna hang out just yet - i asked her if it was because of our "situation" or because she had plans. and she said a little bit of both. if i get her right before she gets on the metro ill have some time with her untill i drop her back. and her flight is just 1 hr so she wont probably be too tired. SHOULD I SURPRIZE HER? the airport is 1 hr from me and out of my way. i wanna do this for her because i still have feelings for her. my plan is too be laid back and just chill and not bring up any mushy stuff or w/e. but i fear that she might think i am coming off too strong, am still possessive, and w/e else she thought about me which made her take a break.... help. thanks Last edited by All i Know; 08-08-2009 at 07:41 PM.