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ladee · 08-08-2009, 01:46 AM

I have been on my PD quest since I was 17, I will be 59 this month. In my case, I have been at it so long that I have become "hyper-aware" as to who I can speak to about these things. I have encountered many that have participated in my growth by thier negativity, name calling, ect. I say they participated in my growth because I had to learn to deal with these things if I was going to continue on this path.
I agree that it is about "reading" who you can say things to, using language that they will understand and relate to, and timing. That to me is part of the rewards of PD. The process has helped me to be kinder to those not interested, to avoid those that simply want to argue, and to be present for those that are interested.
Sometimes we simply need to be who we are, doing what we do, and others will be attracted to what they see and hear. I have learned to use different terms for things that may put some people off. The more I have practiced what I am learning, it helps me to communicate on another level. Because that is after all, some of what we are doing, is it not? Learning how to be present in the world we live in. And sometimes is is simply listening and really hearing. I have learned how to hear what people "aren't saying". Many people have what I call a "word wall". They use so many words to protect their fears, insecurities, ect. that if I only listened to that I would get bogged down in the meaninless of it all. I may not be explaining myself very well, as I have lived this for so long, that putting it into words is sometimes difficult.
But all of you keep on doing what you are doing. We tend to travel unpaved roads at times and those are the most fascinating and wonder filled experiances. And we always seem to find(or be found!) by others just like us.
This is a great thread......

08-08-2009, 01:46 AM	#64 (permalink)
ladee Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 80	I have been on my PD quest since I was 17, I will be 59 this month. In my case, I have been at it so long that I have become "hyper-aware" as to who I can speak to about these things. I have encountered many that have participated in my growth by thier negativity, name calling, ect. I say they participated in my growth because I had to learn to deal with these things if I was going to continue on this path. I agree that it is about "reading" who you can say things to, using language that they will understand and relate to, and timing. That to me is part of the rewards of PD. The process has helped me to be kinder to those not interested, to avoid those that simply want to argue, and to be present for those that are interested. Sometimes we simply need to be who we are, doing what we do, and others will be attracted to what they see and hear. I have learned to use different terms for things that may put some people off. The more I have practiced what I am learning, it helps me to communicate on another level. Because that is after all, some of what we are doing, is it not? Learning how to be present in the world we live in. And sometimes is is simply listening and really hearing. I have learned how to hear what people "aren't saying". Many people have what I call a "word wall". They use so many words to protect their fears, insecurities, ect. that if I only listened to that I would get bogged down in the meaninless of it all. I may not be explaining myself very well, as I have lived this for so long, that putting it into words is sometimes difficult. But all of you keep on doing what you are doing. We tend to travel unpaved roads at times and those are the most fascinating and wonder filled experiances. And we always seem to find(or be found!) by others just like us. This is a great thread......