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Andy4 · 08-06-2009, 09:12 PM

Hi shasah,

Hope you are well.

First impressions are obviously vital, especially when you are dating. You've got to get past first base but this part of it is easier for women because rightly or wrongly men tend to make the approach.

Laughing and smiling a lot is important for first impressions, fake it if someone you fancy comes into view. A guy is always attracted to a girl that smiles a lot, he automatically feels more comfortable about an approach.

Something I learned a long time ago that I've mentioned before on this forum is this, I dont think that I have ever got it accross properly because it is as much of a feeling as an action.

Treat everyone you meet the same and I do mean everyone. Men and women, your work colleagues, shop assistants, potential partners, everyone. Dont think about the future too much, just concentrate on making small, little, TINY, friendly encounters, does this make sense, these can and often do grow into bigger things.

Try making the fist move not just with people you fancy but with everyone. Say the first thing that comes into your head, you'll be amazed how people respond. However do it calmly though with a clear voice, no negatives

IE " I'm not very good at this but... I dont usually do this but...no it doesnt really matter...etc."

drakecatz says ask questions, I agree with this but mix them in with statements no-one likes to feel quizzed, without being too technical jen up on a couple of fun topical issues before you go on your night out. For example today in the uk there was a news feature about a doberman that gave birth to a record number of pups I think it was 18, stuff like that, also men love sport and love girls that do, trust me.

The final thing I would say may sound counter productive but it works.

If you are actively looking for a prospective partner then stop it.

Finding the right person takes time, concentrate on going out making friends and having fun, stick to a couple of venues, so prospective suitors know your habbits and more importantly, CHOOSE THE RIGHT GUY. Do not settle for second best because you feel lonely. It's far better to feel lonely than be unhappy.

A good book on this is by LEIL LOWNDES. I think its called 90 tips about relationships/people etc.

Regards, Andy.

08-06-2009, 09:12 PM	#4 (permalink)
Andy4 Banned Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Manchester, England Posts: 368	Hi shasah, Hope you are well. First impressions are obviously vital, especially when you are dating. You've got to get past first base but this part of it is easier for women because rightly or wrongly men tend to make the approach. Laughing and smiling a lot is important for first impressions, fake it if someone you fancy comes into view. A guy is always attracted to a girl that smiles a lot, he automatically feels more comfortable about an approach. Something I learned a long time ago that I've mentioned before on this forum is this, I dont think that I have ever got it accross properly because it is as much of a feeling as an action. Treat everyone you meet the same and I do mean everyone. Men and women, your work colleagues, shop assistants, potential partners, everyone. Dont think about the future too much, just concentrate on making small, little, TINY, friendly encounters, does this make sense, these can and often do grow into bigger things. Try making the fist move not just with people you fancy but with everyone. Say the first thing that comes into your head, you'll be amazed how people respond. However do it calmly though with a clear voice, no negatives IE " I'm not very good at this but... I dont usually do this but...no it doesnt really matter...etc." drakecatz says ask questions, I agree with this but mix them in with statements no-one likes to feel quizzed, without being too technical jen up on a couple of fun topical issues before you go on your night out. For example today in the uk there was a news feature about a doberman that gave birth to a record number of pups I think it was 18, stuff like that, also men love sport and love girls that do, trust me. The final thing I would say may sound counter productive but it works. If you are actively looking for a prospective partner then stop it. Finding the right person takes time, concentrate on going out making friends and having fun, stick to a couple of venues, so prospective suitors know your habbits and more importantly, CHOOSE THE RIGHT GUY. Do not settle for second best because you feel lonely. It's far better to feel lonely than be unhappy. A good book on this is by LEIL LOWNDES. I think its called 90 tips about relationships/people etc. Regards, Andy.