I have been in a similar situation but I chose not to tell my mother. What she does not know can not hurt her.
I cleared it up with my father and it turned out for the best. Neither my mother or my father are lonely at 75 and plus, alone. They have eachother and what was in the past is not something that is "stuck" between them.
It is not only a matter of so called honesty! It is much too complicated to be simplified and told up front. Much care and thought and love has to go into it. You never know if maybe long ago your mother had an affair you know nothing about and she and Dad got over it....
Families are like soap operas, you just find out later.. when all the "young" zest and belief in "and they lived happily ever after" is gone. Thank God!
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