Thank you everyone for the extremely helpful responses. Based on everyone's advice, I will do my best to limit my expectations and just give her the space she needs at this time in her life. Also, I will try to focus on myself instead of harping on this endlessly.
Uh! what a hard lesson this is! I've held on to this fantasy for so many years, it's so difficult for my mind to let it go.
Also, thank you to everyone who said I was a good "parent" to my sister. Thinking back, there are so many things I would have done differently and I was probably more like a caretaker than a parent. Weird but I assumed my sister was just a mini version of me and knew/felt everything I did at her age. I didn't realize she's a different human being completely until much later! Oh well, I guess we all just do the best we can.
thank you all again. You've definitely help me find a source for peace. I just need to work on not letting it slip away.
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