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Originally Posted by Coffeesmurf  I agree - I also think "coffee dates" can quickly become very formal and rather boring.
I met up with the mountainbiking girl I mentioned earlier two days ago for a ride in the forest combined with a walk along the beach and ended the evening with a sandwich on a secluded roof terrasse on a skyscraper in the middle of the city with a view of the ocean. We both had a great time and it gives you something to talk about.
Next week we're going to play miniature golf and eat lots and lots of ice cream 
But then again - I hooked up with my ex after a very long coffee date with about 6 hours of talking followed by dinner at my place a couple of weeks later, followed by a trip to the museum and then dinner at my place again.. all very datesy. So I'm not saying that can't work out. I think the main thing is just trying to have fun throughout and attempt to be in the moment and not worrying too much about outcome. Which might be easier said than done |
I think if you're a girl, you like sitting down and talking (you need to talk 5 times more than a guy) but if you're a guy, the closest thing we have to coffee dates in our everyday life is a job interview, so it's not so much fun, depending..
But I suppose if you just relax then it's a good chance to find out what their hobbies are, eg. if they like mini golf, or going to the museum, then you've got something to go to for a second date..
Yeah, I met up with a a girl from a gig I'd held helds for probably around half an hour- an hour for a coffee date, and she had to run away from me in about 20 minutes and gave me a kiss on the cheek and then disappeared off the face of the earth :-( but I lost some of my fear that I'd had, after the date.. I was just awkwardly scared I guess which is why she couldn't stick around.
Why I'd like new dates to lose some more fear..