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dulaney0330 · 08-05-2009, 12:24 AM

I recently became married and while I love my husband very much, I still feel the desire to keep my last name. Changing my last name just seems unfair to me. I feel like women have to mess within the system and give up some of their identity.

I want to hyphenate my last name but I want to hear if anyone has done the same and/or if they experienced a sense of sorrow when giving up part of their identity.

Could it possibly be a control issue or do I sincerely want to keep my sense of identity? Not sure. Maybe both.

Maybe I am being "too feminist?"

*It can be challenging to pinpoint what is healthy and what is not!

08-05-2009, 12:24 AM	#1 (permalink)
dulaney0330 Retired Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 1,448	Changing Last Name I recently became married and while I love my husband very much, I still feel the desire to keep my last name. Changing my last name just seems unfair to me. I feel like women have to mess within the system and give up some of their identity. I want to hyphenate my last name but I want to hear if anyone has done the same and/or if they experienced a sense of sorrow when giving up part of their identity. Could it possibly be a control issue or do I sincerely want to keep my sense of identity? Not sure. Maybe both. Maybe I am being "too feminist?" *It can be challenging to pinpoint what is healthy and what is not!