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marinik · 08-04-2009, 07:14 AM

I have 4 children. 2 from my husbands first marriage, I have one from my first marriage, and we have 1 together in this one, for both second marriage. All the kids have grown up with us. They have grown up into wonderful people, happy, successful..

The biggest problem they had in growing up was the "third" biological parent making a mess out of their lives, so the stepfather is their Dad and the biological father is just it, their biological "ancestor", the same with us the mothers. I am Mom and the women who gave birth to them is just that.

This is just to support the thesis that any 2 supportive people can be great parents. DNA is not a guarantee as you all know.

From my experience even if people stay together in a friendly atmosphere because of the kids, and that is extremely rare, the kids are emotionally deprived in growing up with the love and touch... and all the verbal and nonverbal language of love. We learn how to love from our parents and their relationship.

I am all for divorce, 2 committed people staying friends and raising the children together (not in the same space) as partners and not enemies.

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marinik Legendary Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Where Living and Loving and Laughing are written into the Constitution Posts: 14,240	Yours, mine, ours I have 4 children. 2 from my husbands first marriage, I have one from my first marriage, and we have 1 together in this one, for both second marriage. All the kids have grown up with us. They have grown up into wonderful people, happy, successful.. The biggest problem they had in growing up was the "third" biological parent making a mess out of their lives, so the stepfather is their Dad and the biological father is just it, their biological "ancestor", the same with us the mothers. I am Mom and the women who gave birth to them is just that. This is just to support the thesis that any 2 supportive people can be great parents. DNA is not a guarantee as you all know. From my experience even if people stay together in a friendly atmosphere because of the kids, and that is extremely rare, the kids are emotionally deprived in growing up with the love and touch... and all the verbal and nonverbal language of love. We learn how to love from our parents and their relationship. I am all for divorce, 2 committed people staying friends and raising the children together (not in the same space) as partners and not enemies.