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Originally Posted by Markus  It's weird. The down thing is this kind of bleeding inside. This sad feeling of doing everything for her but not being able to help her. It's up and down.
Getting only just so little back to keep hanging on. Very similar to the relationsship with the borderliner. @Coffesmurf: I think you know exactly what I mean... |
Very much so. For me, it hurt me intensely listening to her describe her darkest secret thoughts of suicide, self-mutilation, eating disorders and all the ways she thought she deserved to be punished for being a bad person. I also know exactly what you mean about those first "very nice days".. the start of my relationship with her was very intense and amazing.
But one of the main things the relationship taught me was that you can't help a person with a disorder like that. They can only help themselves, with the assistance of a psychiatrist and medication. The other thing I learned is how amazingly adept some people are at putting up a facade of being happy, outgoing, sweet and honest - while suffering intensenly inside and being few of these things.